I’ve heard wheelchair patients talk about how they feel invisible. As a nurse and paramedic, I didn’t understand what they meant; then years later, I wound up in one myself. Guess what, they were right! When you’re up and walking, you may not realize how many times people bump into you. In a wheelchair, it’s even worse; especially when they fall into your lap!
Then there’s another side of the issue. Have family and friends just stopped inviting you to functions and such? Growing up Catholic, the visiting of the sick was a simple moral precept. As a member of a Baptist church, I was amazed at how much food we received when I first got hurt, and for every surgery. However. if we’re not talking about an event or something, how often do you get a visit or call? (In full disclosure, my church family happens to be very good about staying in touch.) I don’t know how single people with chronic people do it, myself. My wife is my true partner, my girls are my earthly joy.
Now the internet has made a difference, I’ll admit. However, look at it this way: Does your chronic pain sometimes make you feel like you’re in solitary confinement with internet capabilities? Have you had times when you’re not so bad, but there isn’t anyone around to celebrate? God made us to be in community, to have fellowship; how do you do that if you’re invisible? How about you? Do you feel invisible? Do you lack real friendship?